By now, I planned to have completed about 3 posts… However I confess that I have been distracted with researching my family tree!
Researching your ‘roots’ is very much the thing to do at the moment. My own family have long been interested in the tantalizing stories told to them by older family members, and so when my sister won a free subscription to ancestry.co.uk a few weeks ago, I decided to finally sit down and do it.
I have since found Genealogy to be a double edged sword. On the one hand, the Great Granddad we thought was Irish turned out to be born and bred in Croydon, as did the Great Grandmother we had all assumed was a gypsy based on tales of selling heather and her tattoos. Disappointment set in; romantic ideas of Gypsies and the Emerald Isle dashed with the reality of generations of Croydon Market Gardeners. This took the wind out of my sails for a bit, I actually didn’t enjoy being the person to tell everybody that, actually no, these stories aren’t true. This is ‘rubbed in’ by the fact that my boyfriend, the future “Sir Carden of Templemore” (unfortunately not as fancy as it sounds) can trace his lineage back to the 1600’s without any trouble at all, with plenty of Irish characters and scandalous stories; most interesting the psychotically persistent “Woodcock Carden” – so named because his tenants would take pot shots at him whenever he was out and about, but he remained persistently difficult to hit like the bird of the same name. He then won round these tenants after being jailed for an attempted kidnapping of the object of his affections, and was even immortalized in a rather haunting Irish Ballad: http://www.sceilig.com/cardens_wild_domain.htm
However, I persevered, and although I have felt like my brain was leaking from my ear at certain frustrating moments, I am glad I did. I went another generation back, and was met with mysteries, and lots of relatives from little hamlets in the heart of Suffolk - not quite Ireland but a beautiful county all the same! The mysteries appeared in the form of the two Great Great Granddad’s (My Nan’s Dad’s Dad and my Granddad’s Mum’s Dad) both on my mother’s side. These two men don’t appear in the censuses until after they are married. Also, they change their place of birth in the censuses they are in, and both move around a lot before settling in Croydon. So it seems I may have found my Travellers or immigrants after all! The next step is actually trying to find where they were born, their parents, and extended family; this is an ongoing project, the one I mentioned earlier that makes my brain melt. I have had to fork out a few quid and order marriage certificates so I can get their father’s names to try and help my search!
I also came across Army records of my Great Granddad, which said he was just 5ft 2”, had tattoos on both arms and was discharged from the army for committing a crime a few years before the Great War, when he was re-enlisted. Not much to be proud of exactly, but an interesting peek into the reality of my family. Beforehand all I knew was that he came back from the war with some sort of shell shock, and now I know he asked on his enlistment form for ¾ of his pay to go straight to my Great Grandma (who was very beautiful, I am told), and that he may have been the source of her “Love” and “Hate” tattoos across her knuckles! I also found out they grew up next door to each other – childhood sweethearts it would seem. All of this not only made me feel closer to my own family, but gave me a palpable connection to the tragedies of the Great War that I confess I previously found difficult to conceive.
This research also seems to have inspired people to look in their cupboards, and surrender some wonderful photographs, some of which I will link to in a bit. Another blessing in the ‘visual history’ sense is Google Maps street View. I can look at the little rural village one Great Grandmother was working as a servant, and where she married (and presumably met) my Great Granddad, giving birth to their first child just 6 months later (A common occurrence, I have noticed). Knowing the views they might have looked out on together, seeing the listed buildings that they would have walked past, is a lovely way to bring family history to life without having to drive the 4 hour journey there.
I must also admit, it is not just my family I find myself researching; anyone with an unusual name or occupation that catches my eye goes into my folder, and it adds a real richness to knowledge of history you already have, or learn/decide to look up afterwards. Take, for instance, the entire 1841 census for Phillack in Cornwall, home to such unusual names as Darkes Penberty, Carlion and Lovange. Perhaps the person taking the census couldn’t spell… I like to think one woman in the community named her child something unusual and it caught on. Or there is the 1841 census in East Grinstead, in which every family seems to have a daughter named Philadelphia!
Then, there are surprises that are unexpected indeed. My Dad did not know much of his Father's family, due to a breakdown in the marriage of his parents, and his grandparents. In fact, his grandmother married 4 times, the last time in her 50’s, divorced possibly twice (I’m looking into it) changing her name from Caroline to ‘Constance’ in time for husband number 3… She obviously had a sense of humour! My auntie’s and uncle’s memories of her were that she wore high heels and make up well into her dotage, and was a bit of a ‘one’ by most people’s standards. This was verified by the following picture http://www.flickr.com/photos/fenifursnippets/5592685700/ (I don’t think I need to point her out J). I find that I rather like her, in some parts because the picture my research painted was a little sadder than the bare facts make it seem. Widowed from her first marriage, she married my great granddad, but left her daughter with her parents. Then my Great granddad divorced her, accusing her of infidelity, and married another woman just a couple of months after the divorce himself. Their children, my granddad and his brother, were put into a boy’s school, and not visited very much. So little in fact, it seems my Granddad may not have even known his father had died at the time of his marriage; as just his surname appears on the marriage certificate, with no mention of him being deceased. At this time, it would not really have been up to Caroline what happened to her children, and I wonder how she felt about all of this. She obviously kept in contact with our family, but I wonder what happened to Winifred, her first daughter – perhaps I will find out.
It is also through Caroline that I found my long wished-for Cornish Heritage – 700 years of Tregears and Rowes, herself coming from Paul, near Penzance. As well as a Coast Guardman, William Wills, who was stationed off the Dorset coast. A brave occupation at that time, to say the least. Perhaps this is why I have a soft spot for her… Other finds included a newspaper story confirming the disappearance of my Great Great Granddad’s (on my Dad’s Mum’s side) ship – the Laurestina. Before all we had was rumours, I now know the Ship was last Seen on December 7th 1895, sailing past Cape Henry on its way from Baltimore to Sligo, the ship itself was never found, and he left behind a wife and 6 children, one of them my great grandmother.
I think what I’m trying to say is; don’t get disappointed if you find yourself dispelling family legend, or do not find any famous names or grand connections (although I am a distant cousin, 5 times removed or something, of Aldous Huxley, something that made me very happy!). If your family aren’t of high rank, also expect to come across a lot of name changing, and birth dates varying up to 10 years, not helped by the fact that in the 1841 census, adult ages were rounded to the nearest 5.
I don’t think finding out your family history is just about “finding yourself”. I believe it is a wonderful way to get in touch with the past, with ‘real’ history, the lives people led, the places they saw, the jobs they had, both good and bad, the marriages they made and how they came about. For instance it turned out on closer inspection that my Nan lied on her marriage certificate; she was 17, not 18, and married without permission, with her Aunt posing as her Mother. This means of course that my mum and all her siblings are technically illegitimate, and also means that later, when she filed for divorce the first time and was told her husband had a ‘right’ to beat her if wanted - she could have gotten out on the basis that their marriage was void. But then life is full of ifs and buts, and my mum, and therefore me, would not be here if she had succeeded. Swings and Roundabouts and all that.
I’ve listed some of the resources I’ve used, a word of warning about ancestry.co.uk – DO NOT just lift from other people’s trees if they have researched the same family, I have found from further research that in 50% of cases what they have down is wrong! Especially for anything before the 1830’s. I have, for instance, a Robert Aldous, who could be one of three Robert Aldous’s born within 4 years in the same village to different parents – there are 6 other people researching this ‘branch’ – and its split equally as to which Robert each one has chosen! (I think I know the right one, but I’m reserving judgement until I am sure I don’t find him knocking about married to someone he shouldn’t be.
There are also lots of interesting places to gain information – don’t bypass forums, often there are people who live in faraway places only too happy to make a trip to their local Church to look up a grave or some records for you, it can be very good at filling in vital gaps! Looking through the records is also excellent for anyone experiencing writer’s block – I have 3 short story ideas and perhaps even another novel brewing after reading between the lines; and finding some rather scandalous, heroic, and sometimes sad stories hidden there.
One last caution – expect it to take over your life for a good few weeks – both my sister, who is doing her husband’s side, and I, have been up until 2 in the morning on many occasions; having told our partners we would be coming to bed “in a minute” at about 10p.m….
www.freebmd.org.uk – for a quick look up – experiment with your search terms, for example searching for the man’s surname and the first name of the wife can be more effective than using the first name for the man as well – for example I was looking for days for a “Frederick Henry G Ward” who ended up being “George J” on his marriage cert.
http://www.familysearch.org/Eng/Search/frameset_search.asp - an excellent search engine that can include variant spellings.
www.ancestry.co.uk – although a subscription fee applies, their Tree Maker is much easier than trying to put hundreds of census images in order, or scribbling on long rolls of baking paper…
http://azazella.proboards.com/ - For all your Cornish obstacles
www.rootschat.com – another great forum.
http://find.galegroup.com/bncn/start.do?prodId=BNWS The British Library’s 1600 - 1900 Newspaper database
Up next... Trepanning, Ancient Herbals and Pregnancy through history (probably anyway).